A Child’s Vivid Imagination can Place Monsters Under the Bed

A child’s vivid imagination can place monsters under the bed or transform a cubby house into a haven.   The imagined monsters can trigger the same reactions as if they were real, as does being in a cubby house trigger feelings of safety and comfort.

There is a thin curtain between imagined events and real ones

Everyone has heard that practice makes perfect, and that this old saying suggests that mastery of a new skill or the development of a new habit requires rehearsal.   What you need to keep in mind is that learning occurs in response to imagined scenes. and imagined rehearsals.

Imagine engaging in some experience, let us say a job interview and then imagine some pleasantly rewarding outcome.  You receive a call and the head interviewer says “congratulations, you got the job.”

The imagined behaviour makes it more likely for this to occur in real life.  Significant improvements happen in performance following imagined rehearsals of sporting events, performing arts, doing an exam, talking to a friend.

When people imagine how they want to behave and feel they find it easier to change their attitudes.

Efforts to use imagined events to improve learning, positive mental sets and responses are enhanced with progressive relaxation training.

I remember back to when I won a world championship in martial arts.  In the lead up, I would imagine every detail of being the winner.  I could see and feel myself standing on the podium in first position with the Australian flag around my shoulders.  I could smell my gloves and the feel of people patting me on the back saying, “well done, you deserved to win.”  I imagined going through every fight as the winner and repeat this exercise every day for a few months.  It worked, I won the open black belt championships and beat many highly successful fighters, all of them younger than me.

Absorption of Hypnotic Trance

The vivid imagination of a child can place monsters under the bed and so can you, place fears wherever you choose.

Indeed, trance can be used to generate an intense, effortless participation on imagined events and change the outcome from failure to success.

With focused attention and absorption of hypnotic trance you can take the power of imaginary resources beyond the use of ordinary visual imagery – you use all your senses, sight, smell, sensation, taste and sound.

While completely absorbed in these imagined scenes, you can practise new response patterns and rehearse new skills or sharpen old ones

Confidence and Self-Belief

When you believe you can do something, then the chances of success are higher.  People with high self-efficacy perceive themselves as being in control.  Self-efficacy, a “I can do” attitude is increased by engineering success experiences.  What is often quite difficult to accomplish becomes easier with role playing and mental rehearsal techniques to enhance coping abilities and positive expectations for specific situations.

Hypnotic techniques give an abundance of opportunities for enhancing self-esteem and self-efficacy.   Enhancing self esteem is a powerful tool in working with the diversity of problems: anxiety, depression, lack confidence, substance misuse, over reactivity, stress disorder, panic, phobic reactions, eating disorders, performance.

Hypnosis is Not a New Practice

Research shows that the effectiveness of hypnosis is extensive.  National Health Institutes have endorsed it and in Australia some Health Funds cover Hypnosis.   It is a natural state of consciousness where you hear what is being said and aware of what is happening.  It is safe, and you are conscious the whole time and your powers of concentration are exponentially heightened.

Life traumas affect us mentally, emotionally and physiologically and can limit our functioning in everyday life.   When life deals the deck, we suffer stress that can manifest in many ways.

Take Brenda, not her real name, who was suffering from acute anxiety.  The anxiety attacks were frequent and intense with associated migraines, nausea and feelings of panic when in crowds.   She is a professional women with two children and the anxiety needed to stop.  Over a several sessions, using a mix of counselling and hypnosis, the attacks lessened in intensity and frequency until the symptoms disappeared and Brenda was happy, calm and ready to return to work.   She learnt how to soothe herself, or practised self-hypnosis as some might call it,  and to listen the calm, confident and supportive voice inside of her.

And there was Peter, not his real name, whose stressful job had taken its toll.  He was unable to cope with the smallest of decisions both at home and at work.  His relationship with his partner suffered and caused concern with his performance at work.  After several hypnosis and counselling sessions he could put things into a more positive perspective and release past painful experiences.  He was more focused, his work life improved and his intimate relationship became more meaningful.

There is no doubt that hypnosis works and has many applications.

 

Be Your Best Self and Replace Negative Thoughts

Be Your Best Self and Replace Negative Thoughts

Your mental and physical health  are major concerns and you decide what will or will not happen with regards to you wellbeing.  Learning how to be your best self and replace negative thoughts can be easy with hypnotherapy and counselling.

Mental Mind Sets

Thoughts originate from mental mind sets and help you function in daily life.

Some are positive, if you believe you can do something then you can.  Having a goal to raise money for a charity, completing the City to Surf, changing your career, and stopping smoking are some examples.

Some mind sets are harsh and rigid and you get stuck like glue, in negative thinking and behaviour patterns.  Many perfectionists put things off because of an unconscious belief they will fail or get rejected.  The perfectionist unconsciously knows “I may as well not even start if I can’t do something perfectly.”  This is a belief will  only bring misery because there is no way to measure whose the best anyway.  remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

People are willing to believe and act on thoughts no matter how illogical these are.    You may be someone who bets on a horse in the Melbourne Cup and really believe it will win.    A study that ranked peoples’ driving skills discovered that people who have caused one or more accidents really believe they are superior drivers.

Internal Self Critic

We live in a world constructed by our own beliefs, attitudes and values that determine our mind sets.  Some of these are deceptive and there is nothing wrong with this.   Mental sets are internal and inner valuable resources that  guide and reassure us.

Even the internal self critical part wants us to be the best we can.   Many people live with a harsh view about their bodies, and torture themselves with how fat they think they are and for eating something they think they shouldn’t.  Even after looking a past photos of themselves and thinking “I wasn’t that bad, if only I was like that now.”

One way to deal with the debilitating and negative self critic is to view it as an old acquaintance who turns up at your house, as an uninvited guest.  You allow them to be there but ignore them.    As you get better in listening to your ‘best self”  and ignoring self critic then it will eventually quieten down and go away.

When you learn to support and accept yourself you can be your best self and replace negative thoughts.   Life becomes much more pleasant and easier and your body functions in a tension free environment.

Hypnotherapy and Counselling Helps You Change

It takes courage to change negative beliefs and behaviours into more positive ones.   When you change your beliefs your unconscious mind directs you to access more useful information rather than repeat mental ruts.  You can shift to new behaviours and attitudes.

Hypnosis helps you to:

  • focus on what you want
  • stabilise the shifts to new behaviours and attitudes
  • use your imagination to get positive thoughts into your unconscious mind
  • freedom to observe or become absorbed in the positive changes
  • let go of what you don’t need any more
  • watch as the changes occur

Hypnosis is going into trance to bypass any conscious resistance to change.  You give yourself the opportunity to come to identify negative beliefs and attitudes and try out new more positive ones.

Counselling, using change talk, and hypnotherapy together creates a safe and protective environment for you the create the positive mind sets.  No-one will tell you what to do but rather create an environment for self awareness and mindfulness for you to change what, when and how you want to.  Repetition is necessary to change those stubborn negative thoughts and each session enhances your ability to:

  • self evaluate in kinder and more gentler ways
  • be more assertive
  • automatically move towards positive beliefs and attitudes
  • being more optimistic and successful
  • enhance your performance
  • search for what’s right rather than what’s wrong
  • like yourself more and more
  • be your best self and replace negative thoughts

When you work with me, as your hypnotherapist and counselor,  your safety, privacy and confidentiality are paramount.  I create a supportive and accepting environment for your unconscious mind to make the changes you want, when you want them and you decide how to make them.

In your imagination try this

I was once told the smell of fresh peaches can reduce pain and the smell of spiced apples lessens stress.  Listening to the word ‘sleep’ for the one thousandth time your mind shuts down and you go to sleep.

Practise this as many times as you can a day:

Resilience

Think of a time when you felt strong, either emotionally, physically or intellectually.   It can be a major accomplishment or something you did for yourself or someone else that made you feel good about yourself.   Allow this memory to surface into your imagination and focus on the feelings you had at that time.  Notice where you feel this and what it is like.     Now amplify these feelings until they spread throughout your entire body and know that   these feelings are always beating within your heart.  Pay attention to this good feeling throughout the day.

Ideal Relationships: having a secure bond

Imagine the qualities your ideal partner.  See an image of him or her moving towards you, at the right pace for you.  This ideal partner is at just the right distance for you to feel safe and protected.  You are absorbed and captivated in your ideal partner as he or she is in you.  You have special bond and gaze at each others’ eyes with tenderness.  You both reach out and hold hands, feeling connected.  You can easily get each others’ attention and it is easy to emotionally connect.  You know you come first with each other and you can safely share your deepest feelings with each other.

For more information on understanding relationships and couples therapy visit http://lindataylor.com.au/

 

 

Breath is life and it’s free

When you stop and think about it, breathing is the gift of life and it’s
free. Focussing on your breathing is a proven way to manage
stress. It will help you stay calm and focused throughout the day and
it will help you sleep at night. Investing 42 seconds, 3 times a day
(more if you choose) to  learn this vital skill will pay for itself over
and over again.In these 42 seconds signals sent to your brain say that the threat is
over and the Parasympathetic part of the Autonomic Nervous System starts to
reverse the biochemical and physiological changes brought about by the stress
response.
While breathing is controlled mainly through the Autonomic Nervous
System, you can consciously influence your breathing and help switch
off the stress response through changing your breathing style from fast and
short to slow and deep breathing.

Learning conscious breathing

You just need to learn how to  bring awareness to your
breath.  Just like any other skill it takes a bit of
practise.  All it takes is 42 seconds of conscious breathing, 3
times a day.  Before you go to sleep, when you awaken and once during the
day is a start.  Try it for 4 weeks, you can practise at any
time, in any place, and no one will even be aware what you are doing.
Practise when sitting on a bus, a train or in traffic, before and during a
visit to the dentist or doctor, before a job interview, an exam or giving
a presentation, do it before meeting someone new.

How to practise conscious breathing:

1. Take a deep breath in and out, notice if your in breath and out breath are similar, for example, as long or as short as each other

2. The aim is to balance your in and out breath

3. As you breath in count to 7 and as you exhale count to 7

4. Repeat this for 3 breaths

Breath, smile, relax, breath again