OPTIMISTIC PEOPLE TAKE CONTROL

Optimistic people take control.   Three beliefs optimistic people have improve their problem-solving, decision-making and performance.    Although these may require some training.   http://www.hypnosisworks.com.au/hypnotherapyblog/eight-creative-breathing-techniques/

Believing you have some personal control over your life situations.   Even though it appears that you haven’t,  will enhance your ability to  cope with change and your improve your self-esteem.

Focusing on optimism, what you can do, is more effective than becoming skilled in pessimism, focusing on the problem.  This was popular with Freud’s focus on pessimism and behaviorism.

It takes time and commitment to create a new psychological paradigm.    As you believe then so you will become.   Achievement and excellence happen when you:

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

BELIEVE IN YOUR ABILITY TO CONTROL EVENTS

BELIEVE THAT YOU MATTER

BELIEVE YOUR LIFE HAS PURPOSE

A POSITIVE VIEW OF YOURSELF

Positive beliefs and attitudes will enhance happiness.   Even when these may not be entirely accurate. https://faculty.washington.edu/agg/pdf/Gwald_Self-decept_1997.OCR.pdf

Believing your physical health to be good, when it is fair, may enhance your health.

Even it is crazy or stupid you can create a new way of thinking about yourself.   And behaving in ways that make you feel good about yourself.

Like the woman who thought her body was ugly and fat.  She was a few kilograms overweight and became stuck in these negative, rigid thinking patterns.  Even though she received compliments from others about how good she looked that day.

This negative self-image had persisted throughout her life.  I asked her to look at teenage pictures and other earlier photographs where she thought she was fat and ugly.

When she saw those, she said “I really wasn’t that bad after all.”

It is helpful to remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  You can learn to see the beauty in yourself and feel good about yourself.

YOU CAN EXERT CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE

By believing you have some personal control over your life situations, even when little control is actually possible, enhances your self-esteem.

Hypnotherapy can teach you what it feels like to feel good about yourself.

Humans are built for change, sometimes to respond to adversity.   Sometimes just for fun or for the thrill of it.

Finding new ways to change negative thinking patterns that persistently disrupt your life and your relationships can make you feel good about yourself.

Changing to more positive thinking and behavior patterns is not always easy, but with commitment and effort it is always well worth the effort.

Ponder this:

If 98% of your life is going well, and 2% going bad.   You focus on the 2 % that is going bad, then your entire life is going bad.

If 98% of your life is going bad, and 2% going well.   You focus on the 2% that is going well, then your entire life is going well.

LIFE IS MEANINGFUL

You can learn how to strive to find meaning in personal existence.

When you can accept that life offers purpose and meaning but does not promise fulfillment or happiness, you can easily develop an optimistic mindset.

Three reasons and ways for finding meaning are:

  1. That everyone has a healthy core
  2. To focus on your internal resources
  3. Learn tools to use your inner core.

Some ways to discover more meaning in your life you can:

  1. Creating some work,  project, or by doing something
  2. Find an experience with something or someone
  3. Change your attitude toward  unavoidable suffering

Viktor Frankl in his famous book, Man’s Search for Meaning (2008), https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwjEopfe5czjAhWENSsKHW2iAn4YABAAGgJzZg&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAESEeD2MIX0CfVSwaUETY5__3gm&sig=AOD64_0OnLGVYrwog_PwZBF1U2fP5EKO9Q&q=&ved=2ahUKEwiKoo_e5czjAhUPb30KHStDAF8Q0Qx6BAgbEAE&adurl=

says he found meaning when he fell ill in a concentration camp with typhus.

He jotted down on bits of scrap paper notes that enabled him to rewrite his manuscript for Logotherapy  https://www.verywellmind.com/an-overview-of-victor-frankl-s-logotherapy-4159308

 

lindaus3r

I am an experienced therapist with over 15 years experience. I practise in Botany on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday and Miranda on Friday. I am an accredited supervisor with Australian Hypnotherapy Association (AHA) and Australian Counselling Association (ACA).

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