OPTIMISTIC PEOPLE TAKE CONTROL

Optimistic people take control.   Three beliefs optimistic people have improve their problem-solving, decision-making and performance.    Although these may require some training.   http://www.hypnosisworks.com.au/hypnotherapyblog/eight-creative-breathing-techniques/

Believing you have some personal control over your life situations.   Even though it appears that you haven’t,  will enhance your ability to  cope with change and your improve your self-esteem.

Focusing on optimism, what you can do, is more effective than becoming skilled in pessimism, focusing on the problem.  This was popular with Freud’s focus on pessimism and behaviorism.

It takes time and commitment to create a new psychological paradigm.    As you believe then so you will become.   Achievement and excellence happen when you:

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

BELIEVE IN YOUR ABILITY TO CONTROL EVENTS

BELIEVE THAT YOU MATTER

BELIEVE YOUR LIFE HAS PURPOSE

A POSITIVE VIEW OF YOURSELF

Positive beliefs and attitudes will enhance happiness.   Even when these may not be entirely accurate. https://faculty.washington.edu/agg/pdf/Gwald_Self-decept_1997.OCR.pdf

Believing your physical health to be good, when it is fair, may enhance your health.

Even it is crazy or stupid you can create a new way of thinking about yourself.   And behaving in ways that make you feel good about yourself.

Like the woman who thought her body was ugly and fat.  She was a few kilograms overweight and became stuck in these negative, rigid thinking patterns.  Even though she received compliments from others about how good she looked that day.

This negative self-image had persisted throughout her life.  I asked her to look at teenage pictures and other earlier photographs where she thought she was fat and ugly.

When she saw those, she said “I really wasn’t that bad after all.”

It is helpful to remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  You can learn to see the beauty in yourself and feel good about yourself.

YOU CAN EXERT CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE

By believing you have some personal control over your life situations, even when little control is actually possible, enhances your self-esteem.

Hypnotherapy can teach you what it feels like to feel good about yourself.

Humans are built for change, sometimes to respond to adversity.   Sometimes just for fun or for the thrill of it.

Finding new ways to change negative thinking patterns that persistently disrupt your life and your relationships can make you feel good about yourself.

Changing to more positive thinking and behavior patterns is not always easy, but with commitment and effort it is always well worth the effort.

Ponder this:

If 98% of your life is going well, and 2% going bad.   You focus on the 2 % that is going bad, then your entire life is going bad.

If 98% of your life is going bad, and 2% going well.   You focus on the 2% that is going well, then your entire life is going well.

LIFE IS MEANINGFUL

You can learn how to strive to find meaning in personal existence.

When you can accept that life offers purpose and meaning but does not promise fulfillment or happiness, you can easily develop an optimistic mindset.

Three reasons and ways for finding meaning are:

  1. That everyone has a healthy core
  2. To focus on your internal resources
  3. Learn tools to use your inner core.

Some ways to discover more meaning in your life you can:

  1. Creating some work,  project, or by doing something
  2. Find an experience with something or someone
  3. Change your attitude toward  unavoidable suffering

Viktor Frankl in his famous book, Man’s Search for Meaning (2008), https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwjEopfe5czjAhWENSsKHW2iAn4YABAAGgJzZg&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAESEeD2MIX0CfVSwaUETY5__3gm&sig=AOD64_0OnLGVYrwog_PwZBF1U2fP5EKO9Q&q=&ved=2ahUKEwiKoo_e5czjAhUPb30KHStDAF8Q0Qx6BAgbEAE&adurl=

says he found meaning when he fell ill in a concentration camp with typhus.

He jotted down on bits of scrap paper notes that enabled him to rewrite his manuscript for Logotherapy  https://www.verywellmind.com/an-overview-of-victor-frankl-s-logotherapy-4159308

 

EIGHT CREATIVE BREATHING TECHNIQUES

EIGHT CREATIVE BREATHING TECHNIQUES can be used anywhere and anytime; at the office, at home or socializing.

You can interrupt negative thoughts that cycle through your mind by focusing on your breathing technique.

Some creative breathing techniques are presented to help control your thoughts.

As you slow the breath down, the heart rate slows down too, because breathing and heart rate go together.

Hypnotic suggestions and metaphors are used to master your breath https://www.amazon.com.au/Handbook-Hypnotic-Suggestions-Metaphors-Corydon-ebook/dp/B00DNTUYWO

Do each method that you like, three to four rounds.  Repeat throughout the day.

BENEFITS OF BREATH CONTROL

As you practice these during the day and night it will help you:

  • sleep when you want to
  • interrupt negative thoughts
  • lower anxiety
  • quieten your mind
  • bring peace and relaxation
  • settle your nervous system
  • improve concentration

EIGHT DIFFERENT TECHNIQUES

  1. Slow breaths: for three rounds of in and out breaths: for the in-breath count to 4 , hold for count of 7, exhale with a whooshing sound to the count of eight.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324417.php

  1. Forehead: lick two fingers and gently stroke your forehead. Imagine breathing in and out through the skin of your forehead.  Then close the eyes for a moment, relax and imagine you are out in nature and enjoy the feeling of deep relaxation
  2. Swing: imagine you are on a swing. Your inhale starts the swing.  Push the swing during one inhalation and exhalation.  When you are ready let your breath swing to its own rhythm.  Let it swing by itself.  Feel tensions swinging away with each exhalation.
  3. Diaphragm: imagine there is a balloon inside your chest.  With each inhalation you blow up the balloon, feel your chest – front, back, sides, top and bottom expand.  Hold for a count of four then let the air out of the balloon on the exhalation.  Feel the tensions leave your body with each exhalation.
  4. Breath in for a count of 5, hold your breath for as long as is comfortable . Let the air flow out on its own.   Imagine you are breathing in relaxation and exhaling tensions.
  5. Imagine your breath sets a pendulum in motion. Each inhalation sets the pendulum in motion until it finds its own rhythm.
  6. Breath in for a count of 7. As you breath out balance your out breath by counting to 7.  Be still and watch the stillness between each breath.
  7. Breath in for a count pf 7, exhale out of each body part, telling it to let go and relax.  For example, on the out breath tell your neck to let go of your head, move through each body part.

Be Your Best Self and Replace Negative Thoughts

Be Your Best Self and Replace Negative Thoughts

Your mental and physical health  are major concerns and you decide what will or will not happen with regards to you wellbeing.  Learning how to be your best self and replace negative thoughts can be easy with hypnotherapy and counselling.

Mental Mind Sets

Thoughts originate from mental mind sets and help you function in daily life.

Some are positive, if you believe you can do something then you can.  Having a goal to raise money for a charity, completing the City to Surf, changing your career, and stopping smoking are some examples.

Some mind sets are harsh and rigid and you get stuck like glue, in negative thinking and behaviour patterns.  Many perfectionists put things off because of an unconscious belief they will fail or get rejected.  The perfectionist unconsciously knows “I may as well not even start if I can’t do something perfectly.”  This is a belief will  only bring misery because there is no way to measure whose the best anyway.  remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

People are willing to believe and act on thoughts no matter how illogical these are.    You may be someone who bets on a horse in the Melbourne Cup and really believe it will win.    A study that ranked peoples’ driving skills discovered that people who have caused one or more accidents really believe they are superior drivers.

Internal Self Critic

We live in a world constructed by our own beliefs, attitudes and values that determine our mind sets.  Some of these are deceptive and there is nothing wrong with this.   Mental sets are internal and inner valuable resources that  guide and reassure us.

Even the internal self critical part wants us to be the best we can.   Many people live with a harsh view about their bodies, and torture themselves with how fat they think they are and for eating something they think they shouldn’t.  Even after looking a past photos of themselves and thinking “I wasn’t that bad, if only I was like that now.”

One way to deal with the debilitating and negative self critic is to view it as an old acquaintance who turns up at your house, as an uninvited guest.  You allow them to be there but ignore them.    As you get better in listening to your ‘best self”  and ignoring self critic then it will eventually quieten down and go away.

When you learn to support and accept yourself you can be your best self and replace negative thoughts.   Life becomes much more pleasant and easier and your body functions in a tension free environment.

Hypnotherapy and Counselling Helps You Change

It takes courage to change negative beliefs and behaviours into more positive ones.   When you change your beliefs your unconscious mind directs you to access more useful information rather than repeat mental ruts.  You can shift to new behaviours and attitudes.

Hypnosis helps you to:

  • focus on what you want
  • stabilise the shifts to new behaviours and attitudes
  • use your imagination to get positive thoughts into your unconscious mind
  • freedom to observe or become absorbed in the positive changes
  • let go of what you don’t need any more
  • watch as the changes occur

Hypnosis is going into trance to bypass any conscious resistance to change.  You give yourself the opportunity to come to identify negative beliefs and attitudes and try out new more positive ones.

Counselling, using change talk, and hypnotherapy together creates a safe and protective environment for you the create the positive mind sets.  No-one will tell you what to do but rather create an environment for self awareness and mindfulness for you to change what, when and how you want to.  Repetition is necessary to change those stubborn negative thoughts and each session enhances your ability to:

  • self evaluate in kinder and more gentler ways
  • be more assertive
  • automatically move towards positive beliefs and attitudes
  • being more optimistic and successful
  • enhance your performance
  • search for what’s right rather than what’s wrong
  • like yourself more and more
  • be your best self and replace negative thoughts

When you work with me, as your hypnotherapist and counselor,  your safety, privacy and confidentiality are paramount.  I create a supportive and accepting environment for your unconscious mind to make the changes you want, when you want them and you decide how to make them.

In your imagination try this

I was once told the smell of fresh peaches can reduce pain and the smell of spiced apples lessens stress.  Listening to the word ‘sleep’ for the one thousandth time your mind shuts down and you go to sleep.

Practise this as many times as you can a day:

Resilience

Think of a time when you felt strong, either emotionally, physically or intellectually.   It can be a major accomplishment or something you did for yourself or someone else that made you feel good about yourself.   Allow this memory to surface into your imagination and focus on the feelings you had at that time.  Notice where you feel this and what it is like.     Now amplify these feelings until they spread throughout your entire body and know that   these feelings are always beating within your heart.  Pay attention to this good feeling throughout the day.

Ideal Relationships: having a secure bond

Imagine the qualities your ideal partner.  See an image of him or her moving towards you, at the right pace for you.  This ideal partner is at just the right distance for you to feel safe and protected.  You are absorbed and captivated in your ideal partner as he or she is in you.  You have special bond and gaze at each others’ eyes with tenderness.  You both reach out and hold hands, feeling connected.  You can easily get each others’ attention and it is easy to emotionally connect.  You know you come first with each other and you can safely share your deepest feelings with each other.

For more information on understanding relationships and couples therapy visit http://lindataylor.com.au/

 

 

Hypnotherapy – The Smoking Gun!

Hi, I’m Linda Taylor and I’ve helped over a 1,000 clients to stop smoking using my own experience as an ex-smoker and my practice as a hypnotherapist and counsellor.

In my new book Now Stop Smoking I outline life skills that will assist you, so you no longer need the addiction to cigarettes to enhance your day.

I’ll show you ways to:
• feel safe and protected without having to smoke
• have good boundaries within your relationships
• achieve what you need and want in healthy, loving ways – without poisoning yourself with cigarettes
• stop the past influencing you in negative ways
• practice and maintain balance in your life by bringing the mind and body together.

The activities included in each chapter give you the tools to practice these positive skills, which are proven to be very effective in individual and group hypnotherapy. Case studies are also provided, which demonstrate how others have been successful using these strategies.

You deserve to love, respect and care for yourself too. With self-hypnosis you can take control and stop smoking now!

Linda Taylor (612) 9316 6686