The TWO STEP FOCUS METHOD, with practice will improve your focus and ensure peak performance.


Focus in an unwavering way and become absorbed.  This ‘ state of absorption’ has impressive consequences –  the mind of the archer rides the arrow to the bullseye.   I was once taught at a spiritual golf lesson, to focus on where you want the ball to land rather than on how to hit it.   I taught a friend’s child how to win.  He despised losing and constantly did so when playing pool with his older brothers.  It felt good when I beat him, and I am not a good pool player.   I showed him how to focus on his breath, relax and then put all his attention on the pocket.   Each shot he took; the ball went into the pocket and I lost the game.  I guess he was a very quick learner, he wanted to win, and he trusted me as I had won a world sparring championship in Karate.  He listened and followed the good advice.  When he remembers to concentrate on the pocket he is aiming for, his brothers do not beat him.  That brings me to another point.  Become absorbed in what is beyond your goal.  I used to teach karate students to focus beyond the board that they wanted to break with a single punch.  They were surprised how easy it was to break every board.


Involves your ability to broaden or narrow your focus of absorbed attention in response to the situation.

A narrow focus of attention is necessary for individual efforts, such as, a job interview, hitting targets, kicking a ball, performing a lift at the gym, completing exam questions.

A broader or open focus is needed for teamwork, such as,  solving a problem, playing sport, remembering information for an exam.  Remember the team can be all aspects of you, your brain, muscles, sense of self, belief in self.

Lastly you can learn how to shift your focus within or without, dependent on the situation.    A long-distance runner shifts their attention outside of their body or listens to music.  However, to make things complicated a successful marathon runner shifts their attention within and views the physical sensations in a detached way and does not label these as pain.


It Takes PRACTICE to rewire your internal concentration map

  1. Practice daily, it only takes a few minutes to rewire your internal map.
  2. Practice each goal for 6 weeks, repetition creates neurological pathways that last forever
  3. Practice when you awaken and before you go to sleep

SELF LEADERSHIP Behaviours and Attitudes You Can Commit To

SELF LEADERSHIP: Behaviours and attitudes You can commit to

I value Courtesy and Altruism and I offer assistance, am friendly to all, welcome people, engage with helping others , am punctual, see the importance in others, rely on others and allow others to rely on me.

I value Acceptance and I understand mine and others’ strengths and weaknesses, embrace and use others’ and mine skills, co-operate with others, receive others as adequate, valid or suitable, willing to tolerate a tricky situation

I Value people and I relate and connect to others, develop social networks, care for others, communicate with others, practise empathy and compassion for myself and others, seek and use my and others’ skills

A poem about HOPE

Believe in your heart that something wonderful is about to happen.

Love your life.

Believe in your own powers, your own potential, and in your own innate goodness.

Wake every morning with the awe of just being alive. Discover each day the magnificent, awesome beauty in the world.

Explore and embrace life in yourself and in everyone you see each day.

Reach within to find your own specialness.

Amaze yourself and rouse those around you to the potential of each new day.

Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect;  this is the essence of your humanity.

Let those who love you help you.

Trust enough to be able to take.

Look with hope to the horizon of today, for today is all we truly have.

Live this day well.

Let a little sun out as well as in.

Create your own rainbows.

Be open to all your possibilities.

Always believe in miracles!

– Author unknown



Be Your Best Self and Replace Negative Thoughts

Be Your Best Self and Replace Negative Thoughts

Your mental and physical health  are major concerns and you decide what will or will not happen with regards to you wellbeing.  Learning how to be your best self and replace negative thoughts can be easy with hypnotherapy and counselling.

Mental Mind Sets

Thoughts originate from mental mind sets and help you function in daily life.

Some are positive, if you believe you can do something then you can.  Having a goal to raise money for a charity, completing the City to Surf, changing your career, and stopping smoking are some examples.

Some mind sets are harsh and rigid and you get stuck like glue, in negative thinking and behaviour patterns.  Many perfectionists put things off because of an unconscious belief they will fail or get rejected.  The perfectionist unconsciously knows “I may as well not even start if I can’t do something perfectly.”  This is a belief will  only bring misery because there is no way to measure whose the best anyway.  remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

People are willing to believe and act on thoughts no matter how illogical these are.    You may be someone who bets on a horse in the Melbourne Cup and really believe it will win.    A study that ranked peoples’ driving skills discovered that people who have caused one or more accidents really believe they are superior drivers.

Internal Self Critic

We live in a world constructed by our own beliefs, attitudes and values that determine our mind sets.  Some of these are deceptive and there is nothing wrong with this.   Mental sets are internal and inner valuable resources that  guide and reassure us.

Even the internal self critical part wants us to be the best we can.   Many people live with a harsh view about their bodies, and torture themselves with how fat they think they are and for eating something they think they shouldn’t.  Even after looking a past photos of themselves and thinking “I wasn’t that bad, if only I was like that now.”

One way to deal with the debilitating and negative self critic is to view it as an old acquaintance who turns up at your house, as an uninvited guest.  You allow them to be there but ignore them.    As you get better in listening to your ‘best self”  and ignoring self critic then it will eventually quieten down and go away.

When you learn to support and accept yourself you can be your best self and replace negative thoughts.   Life becomes much more pleasant and easier and your body functions in a tension free environment.

Hypnotherapy and Counselling Helps You Change

It takes courage to change negative beliefs and behaviours into more positive ones.   When you change your beliefs your unconscious mind directs you to access more useful information rather than repeat mental ruts.  You can shift to new behaviours and attitudes.

Hypnosis helps you to:

  • focus on what you want
  • stabilise the shifts to new behaviours and attitudes
  • use your imagination to get positive thoughts into your unconscious mind
  • freedom to observe or become absorbed in the positive changes
  • let go of what you don’t need any more
  • watch as the changes occur

Hypnosis is going into trance to bypass any conscious resistance to change.  You give yourself the opportunity to come to identify negative beliefs and attitudes and try out new more positive ones.

Counselling, using change talk, and hypnotherapy together creates a safe and protective environment for you the create the positive mind sets.  No-one will tell you what to do but rather create an environment for self awareness and mindfulness for you to change what, when and how you want to.  Repetition is necessary to change those stubborn negative thoughts and each session enhances your ability to:

  • self evaluate in kinder and more gentler ways
  • be more assertive
  • automatically move towards positive beliefs and attitudes
  • being more optimistic and successful
  • enhance your performance
  • search for what’s right rather than what’s wrong
  • like yourself more and more
  • be your best self and replace negative thoughts

When you work with me, as your hypnotherapist and counselor,  your safety, privacy and confidentiality are paramount.  I create a supportive and accepting environment for your unconscious mind to make the changes you want, when you want them and you decide how to make them.

In your imagination try this

I was once told the smell of fresh peaches can reduce pain and the smell of spiced apples lessens stress.  Listening to the word ‘sleep’ for the one thousandth time your mind shuts down and you go to sleep.

Practise this as many times as you can a day:


Think of a time when you felt strong, either emotionally, physically or intellectually.   It can be a major accomplishment or something you did for yourself or someone else that made you feel good about yourself.   Allow this memory to surface into your imagination and focus on the feelings you had at that time.  Notice where you feel this and what it is like.     Now amplify these feelings until they spread throughout your entire body and know that   these feelings are always beating within your heart.  Pay attention to this good feeling throughout the day.

Ideal Relationships: having a secure bond

Imagine the qualities your ideal partner.  See an image of him or her moving towards you, at the right pace for you.  This ideal partner is at just the right distance for you to feel safe and protected.  You are absorbed and captivated in your ideal partner as he or she is in you.  You have special bond and gaze at each others’ eyes with tenderness.  You both reach out and hold hands, feeling connected.  You can easily get each others’ attention and it is easy to emotionally connect.  You know you come first with each other and you can safely share your deepest feelings with each other.

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