Be Your Best Self and Replace Negative Thoughts
Your mental and physical health are major concerns and you decide what will or will not happen with regards to you wellbeing. Learning how to be your best self and replace negative thoughts can be easy with hypnotherapy and counselling.
Mental Mind Sets
Thoughts originate from mental mind sets and help you function in daily life.
Some are positive, if you believe you can do something then you can. Having a goal to raise money for a charity, completing the City to Surf, changing your career, and stopping smoking are some examples.
Some mind sets are harsh and rigid and you get stuck like glue, in negative thinking and behaviour patterns. Many perfectionists put things off because of an unconscious belief they will fail or get rejected. The perfectionist unconsciously knows “I may as well not even start if I can’t do something perfectly.” This is a belief will only bring misery because there is no way to measure whose the best anyway. remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
People are willing to believe and act on thoughts no matter how illogical these are. You may be someone who bets on a horse in the Melbourne Cup and really believe it will win. A study that ranked peoples’ driving skills discovered that people who have caused one or more accidents really believe they are superior drivers.
Internal Self Critic
We live in a world constructed by our own beliefs, attitudes and values that determine our mind sets. Some of these are deceptive and there is nothing wrong with this. Mental sets are internal and inner valuable resources that guide and reassure us.
Even the internal self critical part wants us to be the best we can. Many people live with a harsh view about their bodies, and torture themselves with how fat they think they are and for eating something they think they shouldn’t. Even after looking a past photos of themselves and thinking “I wasn’t that bad, if only I was like that now.”
One way to deal with the debilitating and negative self critic is to view it as an old acquaintance who turns up at your house, as an uninvited guest. You allow them to be there but ignore them. As you get better in listening to your ‘best self” and ignoring self critic then it will eventually quieten down and go away.
When you learn to support and accept yourself you can be your best self and replace negative thoughts. Life becomes much more pleasant and easier and your body functions in a tension free environment.
Hypnotherapy and Counselling Helps You Change
It takes courage to change negative beliefs and behaviours into more positive ones. When you change your beliefs your unconscious mind directs you to access more useful information rather than repeat mental ruts. You can shift to new behaviours and attitudes.
Hypnosis helps you to:
- focus on what you want
- stabilise the shifts to new behaviours and attitudes
- use your imagination to get positive thoughts into your unconscious mind
- freedom to observe or become absorbed in the positive changes
- let go of what you don’t need any more
- watch as the changes occur
Hypnosis is going into trance to bypass any conscious resistance to change. You give yourself the opportunity to come to identify negative beliefs and attitudes and try out new more positive ones.
Counselling, using change talk, and hypnotherapy together creates a safe and protective environment for you the create the positive mind sets. No-one will tell you what to do but rather create an environment for self awareness and mindfulness for you to change what, when and how you want to. Repetition is necessary to change those stubborn negative thoughts and each session enhances your ability to:
- self evaluate in kinder and more gentler ways
- be more assertive
- automatically move towards positive beliefs and attitudes
- being more optimistic and successful
- enhance your performance
- search for what’s right rather than what’s wrong
- like yourself more and more
- be your best self and replace negative thoughts
When you work with me, as your hypnotherapist and counselor, your safety, privacy and confidentiality are paramount. I create a supportive and accepting environment for your unconscious mind to make the changes you want, when you want them and you decide how to make them.
In your imagination try this
I was once told the smell of fresh peaches can reduce pain and the smell of spiced apples lessens stress. Listening to the word ‘sleep’ for the one thousandth time your mind shuts down and you go to sleep.
Practise this as many times as you can a day:
Think of a time when you felt strong, either emotionally, physically or intellectually. It can be a major accomplishment or something you did for yourself or someone else that made you feel good about yourself. Allow this memory to surface into your imagination and focus on the feelings you had at that time. Notice where you feel this and what it is like. Now amplify these feelings until they spread throughout your entire body and know that these feelings are always beating within your heart. Pay attention to this good feeling throughout the day.
Ideal Relationships: having a secure bond
Imagine the qualities your ideal partner. See an image of him or her moving towards you, at the right pace for you. This ideal partner is at just the right distance for you to feel safe and protected. You are absorbed and captivated in your ideal partner as he or she is in you. You have special bond and gaze at each others’ eyes with tenderness. You both reach out and hold hands, feeling connected. You can easily get each others’ attention and it is easy to emotionally connect. You know you come first with each other and you can safely share your deepest feelings with each other.
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